Wouldn’t it be nice if we got a certificate at the end of our parenting years as proof of a job well done?
How do we even know when to hand over the reins? What proof is there that our kids are able to adult? To take on all of the decision-making and responsibilities of their lives? How will you know when you’re done parenting?
“Ships are safe in harbor but that’s not what ships are for.”
The first time I saw this quote it struck me right between the eyes. I had been so focused on keeping my kids safe that I had forgotten to allow them to practice living. And that’s what they do when they’re beneath our roof. They get the chance to practice while we’re there to help them.
You’ll always be a mom or dad but fostering independence in your child early on is the real job of parenting. The perks of being a parent: the kisses, the hugs, the joy of having this kid in your life, that’s all fine and good but our job as parents is to shepherd them until such a time as they are able to survive without us.
One day the tables will turn and our children will be caring for us. Now is your chance to make sure they are gonna be good at it! Let them do what they can do for themselves starting now and teach them to ask for help when they need it.
In it for the kisses,
All the best,